Travel

My Solo Trip To Copenhagen: Why You Should Travel Alone, Too!

March 31, 2017

I left San Francisco thinking what the hell did I get myself into?

I came back with so many more experiences, memories, & new friends than I could have imagined.


Hi, Hi, Hi!!

I’ve been totally MIA after returning from Copenhagen last month and was totally busy with 101 things when I got back.

So let’s dive right in…

Why did I take this trip?

No reason other than spontaneity. I found some tickets and asked friends if they could go, no one was able to make it so I decided instead of giving up on the trip, I’d go alone.

Why Copenhagen?

I literally googled “cities in Europe” and randomly picked Copenhagen. I’ve never been there, I don’t know anyone there, and didn’t know a thing about the city. Turned out to be a pretty good freaking choice!

Those were the two most asked questions from my family, friends and people I met abroad. This trip was just about meeting other travelers, getting to know some locals, and enjoying my time exactly how I wanted. I didn’t want to plan any of it, I didn’t want to do anything (really) touristy.

After coming back from an amazing time in Europe, I have to share why I would suggest traveling alone.

5 reasons to take the plunge and book a solo trip:

1. Planning is TOTALLY easy. I think I booked my stays about 2 weeks before I left. Smartest decision? No, lol, but it worked for me. I didn’t have to wait on anyone else, check if everything was good to go, or if anything was within anyone’s budget.

2. Boost of confidence. I’m a total extrovert. Soo traveling alone was pretty daunting, however my anxiety started and ended on the first day. Come day 2 I was running around with new friends. Traveling alone was also so liberating, some days I didn’t want to meet people and just take in the city’s beauty on my own.

3. You’ll make new friends. I met some people on my second day and was invited to go to a Metallica concert. Need I say more? Usually other travelers are willing and excited to meet other people just as much as you are. Most locals are too.

4. You’ll become a better traveler. I can’t express this one more. When it comes to traveling (with Ryan) I’m not a big planner, I don’t do maps, and I’m always in La La Land snapping photos left and right. This trip changed everything, I HAD to be more observant and pay attention to my surroundings in order to get to my destinations and back home.

I mean if things get tricky, there’s always Uber…let’s be real. ;)

5. You’ll have some pretty great/funny/weird/interesting stories to bring back home. I had so much unexpected fun on this trip and cherish the time I was in Copenhagen…but wow do I have some pretty awkward encounters. I was telling my friend all the deets last week and she almost spit out her mimosa.

Had to make a pit stop in London, of course. I adore this city. Did a little shopping & met some pretty awesome people. 

The last thing I felt while traveling solo was lonely. I highly recommend traveling on your own. There’s so much to see and learn, get out there and explore on your own time and I promise it will be worthwhile.

“There are no such thing as strangers; only friends you haven’t met yet.”

– Alyssa 

Talk

Maintaining Friendships & Dropping The Toxic

January 31, 2017

Hey hey guys! How is everyone doing?

January just FLEW by, where did the time go?! It’s Tuesday and I’m still on a high from such a wild good weekend.

I hope your week is off to a good one! 

I went to San Jose to visit my oldest best friend, Danielle. We’ve been friends since 4th grade and don’t see each other often since we live in different cities, but when we do it’s like nothing has changed. Those are the best friendships right?!

Those are the friendships that will last a lifetime.

Anyways, around my birthday I came to this realization that I really wanted to make it a point to see my friends more. I have been blessed to have such great people in my life, but at times I get lazy when it comes to making plans.

Living in San Jose, then moving to San Diego, then to San Francisco has made keeping in touch a bit harder.

Maintaining friendships: aka grabbing coffee, FaceTiming regularly, happy hours, talking on the weekends to catch up, whatever- is so important to a lasting friendship. Spending time with friends not only lifts your spirits from laughing so much, it’s good to vent to someone other than say your boyfriend. I know Ry can get overwhelmed with my girl talk LOL.

Good friendships shape you in more ways than you think. If you surround yourself with inspiring, smart, and supportive friends you’ll feel motivated, more confident, get instant reality checks, and overall just happier.

We have 24 hours in a day, there’s always room for friends.

I just started saying “yes“, and have literally seen my friends more in that past week than Ryan haha. When a close friend wants to hang out, put all aside (besides big responsibilities like work) and MAKE TIME. Also, reach out! Nothing is worse than the oh so typical girl response: “Hope all is well, we should catch up soon.” text because let’s be real, you and I both know, that catch up date isn’t happening for a long, long time.

& please don’t be that person that excludes their friends once they get into a relationship.

That’s one thing I really do take pride in, my friends have always been equal to my boyfriend and my very closest, like family.

Now…the toxic.

I mean that’s a pretty strong word, but you get what I mean, not good for you friends!

I’ll try to be brief with this topic, since there isn’t much to say. If someone is constantly negative or always complaining (& don’t get me wrong I understand if someone is having a bad day or even a bad week), but a constant debbie downer will only tire you out.

Who wants to live like that? Not me.

I was talking to a friend a few weeks ago and we were talking about the effect of someone constantly complaining has the same effect of someone that constantly boasts about their life. Hearing people boast is just exhausting, it gets old. If you’re supportive and share with friends how proud you are of them, the need to gloat is inconsequential. Also people who constantly flake out on plans, it happens, but when it becomes consistent…ain’t nobody got time for that.

I’m learning rather quickly that the older we get, the less time we should spend on sh*t we don’t want.

Life is short, don’t waste time on friendships that wear you out! Put all your energy into the ones you cherish most, trust me, your life will be much better with people who you admire most.

PS. If there’s a friend that you’ve been missing, but just sort of stopped talking to, reach out to them. There’s a good chance they miss you too. 


I would love to hear your thoughts! What are your favorite ways to keep in touch? Did you ever have a toxic friend that gave you instant anxiety? Let’s talk about it.

Happy Tuesday babes.

XO,

AlyssaIMG_8988

{ Danielle & I doing what we do best ( having fun ;D ) at Sarah’s Vineyard in Gilroy }

 

 

My AllSaints long suede jacket is currently sold out, but similar jackets are linked below:

 

 

Style

Birthday Getup | Iceland

January 16, 2017

IMG_7637-2FullSizeRender 12 IMG_7590IMG_7608IMG_7605Missguided.

I love their flirty, girly, and fun wear. I came across this dress while shopping at Nordstrom and had to have it. I didn’t have any occasion to wear it to, but knew something would come up. I had planned to wear it to a wedding, but decided on a Love & Lemons dress instead.

After doing a major closet clean out, I found it and was seriously thinking about taking it back, since it was sitting in my wardrobe for months with the tags sadly hanging.

I was planning on wearing a long sleeve, more club type dress for my birthday in Iceland, but then Ryan mentioned that our NYE festivities required formal wear. UMM when was he planning on telling me this?! He had bought tickets to an event, and I just assumed it was going to be casual because I had told him what I wanted to wear. I especially thought that wearing something like this would make me freeze!

Oh it did. I was frozen, soo cold when we went to the rooftop to see the fireworks. But it was ALL TOO WORTH IT.

I’m obsessed with this dress. I love an open back, high neck, perfect slit, royal blue…can this dress be any more me?! The material is great- it’s thick & stretchy that doesn’t show underwear lines, you don’t need a bra (well, ha I didn’t), and it just morphs to your body perfectly.

I really really hope I get the chance to wear this dress again this year.

You can shop the dress HERE. (It’s on sale now too guys!!)

Below are a bunch of Missguided’s more formal dresses to show off on your birthday, wear to a wedding, or any event that’s more formal.

They are all UNDER $100!! ;)

Happy shopping!

Love,

Alyssa